Yeah, of course, our impending trip has been met with a ‘Wow’, ‘Get it gurrrl!’, ‘You a brave mf’ kind of attitude. It’s been the most overwhelming response in fact… but when people go in with the ‘why tho’ attitude, they go in hard. Occasionally it’s a genuine curiosity as to why; more often than not though this question is designed by their own insecurities and dumped on your doorstep in an attempt to destroy your confidence in what you’re about to embark on… AND YOUR SOUL.
The problem with questioners of this variation is that they make their pre-formed opinion immediately very clear in their tone: You are section-level mental and must be talked down from this terrible decision. In which case they will not be receptive to an answer that is contrary to their belief-system. I find these challenges vaguely offensive, patronising, and frustrating to counter-act.
For example I was asked continuously ‘WHY?’, ‘Why would you do such a thing?!’, ‘Why do you choose to run off, you can’t keep running away!’ No matter what my answer was, I was berated more in the hope I’d back down and ‘admit’ I was being foolish. Let’s back tf up. First of all, when did travelling, seeing the world, pushing yourself, conquering something become running away? My frustration is with the apparently common consensus that if a person does something atypical it’s perfectly fine to question them in a mocking and almost aggressive manner; if I turned the tables and I approached people, to impose my opinion, to ask, ‘WHY did you have that baby, why did you marry that person, why OH WHY did you do such a thing?!’ I would be in deep shit, fast. I understand we’re from two opposing mindsets; but you see, that type of person doesn’t really want me to answer honestly, because my honest answer would be: “‘Why’? Because I don’t want a Next sale, DFS, First Choice package holiday, Sky Movie channel, beige carpet life like yours, that’s ‘why’“… If I answered in the same repulsed-by-your-decisions manner as they’d asked I’d be the monster, because I was just meant to absorb and laugh off their attack and blush at how silly I’m being.
Can’t, shan’t. You do you and I’ll do me… and, “Me?? Why, I’m hiking the Appalachian trail babbyyy!!”
I do have one counter-question though – Why not?